Why is it wrong to lie? Why is it wrong to have sex outside of marriage? Why is it wrong to steal, cheat, etc? Obviously it is accepted, most of the time, that these moral issues are guidelines that govern how we should live and act. But, there are those that have a hard time accepting what has always been considered right and wrong. A few years ago, I was leading a group of high school students in a discussion and these questions came up. Why is it wrong to lie when a lie may protect someone from pain. Then someone pointed out the account in Joshua when Rahab lied to the men sent by the king to take Caleb and Joshua as spies. In fact, Rehab is added to the book of Hebrews faith hall of fame because of her actions in protecting God’s men by lying. So, as I was asked, does that not prove that sometimes it is better to lie for the greater good? I did not have an answer, at least one that satisfied them. In fact, I thought the point was a valid one, but I also knew in my heart that this is a dangerous way to think because if we begin to determine what is right and wrong things will go south in a hurry. But what is the answer? Are the things we are supposed to do and not do, even according to Scripture, written in stone, or are there circumstances that supersede the absoluteness of the issues where there are, in fact, times when it is better to lie, cheat, steal and so on? These questions may have been asked by high school students, but I think these questions are a valid challenge to way obedience is understood especially in conservetive Christianity. Honestly I think the typical understanding and teaching of obedience is backwards. Here’s why.
First we have to look at the nature of obedience. What is obedience? Is it about following a list of dos and don’ts, or about living the way in which we were designed? And, for that matter, what are we designed for? Why were we created, and has our purpose changed over time since we were created? The first part of the question is easy, look at Genesis chapter 1.
26 Then God said, “Let us make human beings in our image, in our likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild animals, [a] and over all the creatures that move along the ground.”
27 So God created human beings in his own image,
in the image of God he created them;
male and female he created them.
28 God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”
Keep in mind that humans were created after everything else on the 6th day. God rested on the 7th. We were created last. We are told here that we were made in God’s own image and made to rule over, or take care of his creation. Some scholars say that being made in his image has nothing to do with physical imagery, but rather we are to interact with creation and each other with the love that comes from him. Remember: 1John4:16 And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in him.) If God is love, and we are made in His image, then we are made to love like Him. Now we have messed things up because of our own selfishness, Gen. 3, but I don’t think that our fallen condition has changed the mission and purpose of our existence. So back to the question:
What is obedience?
Maybe the answer is: living the way we are created. This way of thinking encompasses not just our actions, but our intentions as well. This is important to understand because our actions alone are not always a good indication of what our intentions are, or rather, where our heart is. Look at it this way. I may teach my child to do the right things and avoid the wrong and she may be completely obedient to me in everything I teach her. While she may never lie, steal, cheat, curse, make a bad grade, and so on, she could still be hateful, selfish, proud, and cold to others around her. She could do all the right moral actions, but never give anything to someone in need, comfort someone in pain, or sacrifice for something other than herself. Even by doing all the right things and avoiding the wrong, she could miss the purpose for living. I think Jesus spoke volumes to this in His sermon on the mount. I think Jesus was reminding us here, and throughout all his teachings, who we were created to be and what that should look like. He demonstrated this over and over again. Remember the woman caught in adultry, the woman at the well, His invitation to Peter after Peter’s denial. Those are but a few examples, but they all demonstrate that Jesus’ perspective was beyond just doing right and avoiding wrong.
This perspective completely overshadows the simple questions about what is right and what is wrong. Basically, when we realize that God really is love and we are made in that love (His image), then love becomes our driving force–our purpose in life. We won’t have to spend time trying to figure out where the lines of right and wrong are. We won’t want to lie because truth and honesty are by-products of love. We wont cheat because cheating gets in the way of experiencing love that we give and receive. We wont want to have sex outside of its purpose in marriage because A. we want to save our best for our spouse, either present or future, for the sake of love, and B. we wont want to take something from someone else that is not ours because we love that person way to much to rob them of their intimacy. Pastors will not have to spend the majority of there time reminding and preaching to us the details of what we should and should not do.
It is unfortunate that this understanding of what we see in Genesis 1 and in Jesus’ teaching is lost among many churches and pastors. It seems that the teaching that comes from so many within the Church says that if you do all the right things and avoid the wrong, God will be pleased and bless you in your life. This is so backwards. If one will realize who God is and who we are (His created). If we will set our purpose to understand Him, who we are in Him, and the relationship we have with Him, we will not want to do ANYTHING that interferes with that relationship. Then the church would not have to spend so much time teaching and preaching right and wrong. Some call this the doctrine of “sin management”. I think that is a good term for it, and I agree with those who say that it is not a good doctrine. Just managing our sins is not the purpose or priority of what people should be about, and if any make this the sole priority for their teaching, then I say they are backwards in their thinking and are doing an injustice to the Gospel of Jesus Christ. In making a very small and narrow perspective the main point of what God is all about, they are leaving their flock/following malnourished and ignorant to all that God intends for His children.
For sometime, I lived under the guilt that comes from thinking life is about right and wrong. It was terrible. I was not able to come to a God who had already come to me because I thought I was nothing but a let down to him. I felt like I failed at every thing and was never going to amount to anything. I cannot thank Him enough for giving me the understanding about who He really is thus allowing me a true personal relationship with Him. It is through that understanding that I now am realizing that I have a part to play in building for His kingdom; that I will be perfect in that kingdom after the Resurrection; and that His Kingdom is really the only hope I have and will need. Say what you want, this is all real to me and as a result, I want, like I never have before, to be completely obedient because I want to be as close to Him as I can. I want the same for you too.